As we approach the new year of 2014, the inevitable issue of New Year’s resolutions will appear. Anytime we assess where we are in life, and take steps toward self-improvement, that is a good thing. As I am no guru or divine authority, I don’t seek to suggest what people should resolve to do in their own lives.
I do need to remind you that words, particularly “I” statements, are acutely powerful. Often we float through life purposeless like feathers with no particular direction. We think things that get in the way of our own growth and happiness and refuse to analyse and refute them. Seldom do these thoughts scream and yell. Generally, they come to us in the form of whispers: “I can’t, I don’t deserve, I am unworthy, I won’t succeed, I fear, I am ugly,” and the list continues. Often, these negative whispers leave us feeling guilty, fearful, doubtful, defeated, and destined for suffering. We choose the frequency or vibration of our lives however, and if we seek self-empowerment and peace, WE must control the whispers of our minds, or those things we tell ourselves in the deepest recesses of our minds. Ultimately, WE are responsible for our own happiness, no one else.
Below I’ve listed 8 general phrases that form the foundation of personal growth and success. I’d like to share them with you and I only ask that you seriously consider how you can use them to improve and expand the quality of your own life.When you feel those negative and limiting thoughts invading your mind, check them at the door and practice replacing them with these powerful “I” statements. I leave the expressions blank so you can use the affirmation or statement of your choice.
1. I am…: A statement of identity. This is the starting point it would seem, for everything we do.
2. I can…: A statement of ability, competence and potential.
3. I will…: A statement of choice, intention, and agency.
4. I believe: A statement of ethics and faith
5. I accept…: A statement of understanding
6. I forgive…: A statement of sensitivity and compassion.
7. I apologize…: A statement of humility
8. I love/I appreciate…: Perhaps two of the highest expressions one can make. These statements also open up floodgates of karma to those stating them.
I believe these 8 phrases embody and promote the balanced, purposeful, self-empowered frequencies that give our lives meaning and that free us from the envy, pettiness, selfishness, and other negative vibrations that rob our lives of vitality, freedom, and peace.
I hope you find this useful. Happy holidays!!
Agyei Tyehimba is a former NYC public schoolteacher, co-founder of KAPPA Middle School 215 in the Bronx, NY, and co-author of the Essence Bestselling book, Game Over: The Rise and Transformation of a Harlem Hustler, published in 2007 by Simon & Schuster. Agyei has appeared on C-Span, NY1 News, and most recently on the A&E documentary, “The Mayor of Harlem: Alberto ‘Alpo’ Martinez.” Mr. Tyehimba is a professional consultant and public speaker providing political advice and direction for Black college student organizations, community activist groups, and nonprofit organizations. If you are interested in bringing Agyei to speak to your organization, contact him at email@example.com